Facebook arguments, being wrong, and penetration enhancers…

Okay, so I kinda kicked a hornets’ nest on Facebook last night – click here to see that post – by sharing my thoughts on something I read in a magazine. Here’s what I wrote…

Thought for the day: I read that old myth of “much of what we put on our skin is absorbed through our bloodstream” in a bath & body magazine (that I really wish I hadn’t subscribed to for a number of reasons).

Oh, people didn’t like that! I woke up this morning to find I’m being called an idiot, that my post is idiotic, that I’m venomous. People are saying they’ll boycott the company where I teach. This really feels like a group of children who are mad because I disagreed with them. Really?

As a note, I’m not upset about this as I actually find it a bit funny to see grown women behaving like this to a total stranger. Can you imagine talking like this to someone?

So here’s the thing: I’m okay being wrong because that’s how I learn. If you approach me in the spirit of offering me information or offering feedback about something, then I’ll be receptive to it. Think about something you used to do or believed was true. How did you alter that perception or belief? And were you okay once you realized you might have been wrong?

Consider this: Every day we see people getting “you’re” (contraction of you and are) and “your” (possessive) wrong. If you try to correct them, they get defensive about it, so they never learn which is which. If we’re open to the idea of being wrong, we can learn something new!

Another thought: If your first reaction is defensiveness or to attack or insult, I know you can’t support your position.

A third thought: If you tell someone they should research your position and prove you wrong, you’ve lost. It’s up to you to prove any position you’ve taken, and even moreso if you’re saying something that is against the laws of chemistry, like the woman who insisted she could make pH 7 soap, which was the inspiration for Kevin Dunn’s pH 7 liquid soapmaking challenge that only one person entered.

Here’s the thing: It’s okay to believe something you can’t support. I believe in all kinds of things I know I wouldn’t be able to support with studies and I’m okay with that. But I don’t show up on people’s blogs or Facebook page calling them idiots because they disagree that lime green is the best colour ever or that Game of Thrones is epic. We can disagree with people and still like them or not hate them because we’re adults, not children who have difficulty with ambiguous feelings.

One thing I know for sure, the song “The Trooper” by Iron Maiden is the best song written. This is an objective fact. 

Finally, if you come out guns a’blazing when someone has a different opinion than you, you look like an idiot when proven wrong.

An illustration of this idea: A woman approached us at our youth programs to say that she had booked our room. She said her group was there every Thursday and that they were in this room every Thursday since the beginning of the year. I assured her that we were there every second Thursday, and could show her pictures to prove it. She was practically yelling at me, then stormed off to the receptionist to prove me wrong. Instead of coming back to apologize to us for her behaviour when she found out which room she had booked, she stormed off in the other direction. If she had disagreed with me and went to the receptionist together, it would have been a simple matter, but she escalated it by being really rude and over the top about it, and now has to avoid our gaze every week at that centre. I took away from this experience that if you approach someone politely, you won’t feel so stupid if you’re the one in the wrong.

Okay, with that rant out of the way, here’s my position: There are ingredients we use that might penetrate the upper layers of our skin, the stratum corneum, but very few things will penetrate into the bloodstream. This is a good thing as we don’t want things like essential oils or glycerin to enter our bloodstream as they’re needed on that top layer of skin.

Think about this for a moment: If this were true, then every time you used a mineral make-up product that contained iron oxide, you’d have a tattoo by the end of the day as the molecules penetrated your skin! 

There aren’t “endless studies showing how the skin is the body’s greatest sponge” because it isn’t. The skin’s job is to keep things out, and if your skin is a sponge, you’re in big trouble healthwise!

There are ingredients that’re used as penetration enhancers – do not Google this term with “safe search” off! – like isopropyl palmitate (IPP), propylene glycol, isopropyl myristate (IPM), and more. Eucalyptus essential oil may be used as a penetration enhancer and some terpenes may penetrate our skin.

I could go on about this for hours but my best friend is coming over in a few minutes for lunch as I haven’t seen her in weeks thanks to these horrible muscle spasms, but I wanted to get these links out there so people could follow them if they wished…